Resilience makes dealing with the vagaries of life seem like a great adventure

Deal with the vagaries of life by working to make them seem like a great adventure. Embody the change you want in the world

Resilience makes dealing with the vagaries of life seem like a great adventureI was still in high school when my father was fired from the San Francisco Examiner. Dad loved the newspaper business and he especially enjoyed his job, working with the newsboys who (then) sold papers on street corners. I knew he'd be devastated by the loss. To add to the problem, he had been employed…

How Santa knows if you’ve been naughty or nice

There are plenty of factors at play, but it’s clear that Santa understands human response and has more than a little science on his side

How Santa knows if you’ve been naughty or niceHave you ever wondered how Santa Claus determines whether to leave you a present or a lump of coal on Christmas Eve? How he knows if you’ve been naughty or nice? I don’t have any hard evidence to back it up but I’m pretty sure he must be a first-class lie detector. And, if so,…

The best leaders build and maintain trust

Five actions that will build trust in your organization. But only sustained behaviour will ensure that trust survives and thrives

The best leaders build and maintain trustTrust is the belief or confidence that one party has in the reliability, integrity and honesty of another party. It’s the expectation that the faith one places in someone else will be honoured. When I asked 537 managers how leaders build and destroy trust, here’s what I learned: It’s always a case of ‘follow the leader.’…

6 reasons we suck at spotting liars

The best way of countering liars is to follow the old adage “trust, but verify”

6 reasons we suck at spotting liarsRecognizing that we are being lied to is an important social and business skill. But surprisingly small factors about someone, – where we meet them, what they wear, what their voices sound like, whether their posture mimics ours, if they mention the names of people we know or admire – can enhance their credibility to…

Building a better collaboration strategy

Create mini-cultures to make your group feel safe, valued, important and needed

Building a better collaboration strategyRecently, I spoke on “The Power of Collaborative Leadership" to business audiences in The United Arab Emirates, Scotland, England, The Netherlands, Belgium, Canada and four states of the U.S. Audience members represented industries including engineering, manufacturing, retailing, construction, shipping, technology, energy, utilities, printing, pharmaceuticals and consulting – plus a range of government agencies. After my…

Why leaders should watch their body language

Leaders must understand how nonverbal skills can help them develop positive business relationships

Why leaders should watch their body languageMany executives in my audiences are initially skeptical about hearing a speaker on "body language" because they suspect that the topic might be interesting, but not very practical. By the end of my program, they know better. Here's what they learn ... 1) Science has validated the impact of body language Body language is the…

Ten body language myths that limit success 

Body language plays a key role in your career but don’t limit your success by buying into these myths

Ten body language myths that limit success Body language plays a key role in your career – from your first job interview to the ongoing process of building professional relationships to being perceived as having leadership presence. But not everything you’ve heard about body language is accurate. Don’t limit your success by buying into these 10 myths: Using body language to make…

10 simple and powerful body language tips

Small nonverbal changes can make a big difference in how people perceive and relate to you

10 simple and powerful body language tipsI’ve spoken to over 200 business, university, association, and government audiences and, in the process of preparing to address these very savvy professionals, I’ve discovered even more about the role of body language in business success. Here are my 10 simple and powerful body language tips I've culled over the years: 1) Before an important…

Beware of ghosts haunting your organization

I've seen how ghosts can haunt organizations around the world. It wouldn't surprise me if your company was also haunted

Beware of ghosts haunting your organizationI once accompanied an eight-year-old Princess, a toddler dressed as a bumblebee, and a small Ninja on their 'trick or treat' rounds. One neighbor opened his screen door a little too wide and bumped the (highly padded) bumblebee off his front porch. Without missing a beat, the man said: 'Oh ... a Ninja, a Princess…

Listening with your eyes

When your business colleague stops looking at you, she is "saying" with her eyes that she has, in effect, stopped listening

Listening with your eyesYou're at a business event and the colleague you've been having an intense conversation with begins to shift her gaze from your face to look around the room. Ever wonder why that makes you feel as if she has stopped listening? You know it's not logical. A person doesn't have to look at you to…

Why IBM brought remote workers back to the office

And why your company may be next

Why IBM brought remote workers back to the officeIn 2009, IBM reported that 40 per cent of its 386,000 employees in 173 countries were working remotely. That policy allowed IBM to sell off its office buildings at a gain of almost $2 billion. Hailed as a savvy business strategy, the trend of telecommuting was soon in full swing. Impressive, right? Why then, in…

How to tell if you are working for a bully

And what to do about it

How to tell if you are working for a bullyI met Brenda when she managed a 2,000-person department for a Fortune 500 company. Brought in to help her with an upcoming change initiative, I was impressed by Brenda’s intelligence, creativity, political savvy, and dedication to her job. She had all the qualities of a senior executive – which was her career goal. But she…

When leaders talk with their hands

If a speaker's gestures are not in full agreement with the spoken words, the audience perceives duplicity

When leaders talk with their handsHave you ever noticed that when people are passionate about what they're saying, their gestures automatically become more animated? Their hands and arms move about, emphasizing points and conveying enthusiasm. You may not have been aware of this connection before, but you instinctively felt it. Research shows that audiences tend to view people who use…

Attracting and retaining tomorrow’s top talent

When asked what they most want from their employers, four categories are always at the top of a young workers' list

Attracting and retaining tomorrow’s top talentKendra is majoring in Finance in of one of the top universities in the United States. With one semester of schooling to complete, Kendra spent the summer as an intern in one of the leading high-tech companies in Silicon Valley. That company just made her an offer for full-time employment after graduation, which Kendra will…

Do you know what your body just said?

We reveal a lot about our attitudes, emotions and motives by the way we hold our bodies

Do you know what your body just said?I often address leadership groups about the importance of nonverbal communication in business. Senior managers actively participate in the sessions, asking questions and volunteering for various demonstrations. Everyone seems genuinely interested in the topic. Everyone, that is, except this one time when one woman sat for the entire time with her shoulders rounded, chin tucked…