The trouble with lusting after status

It’s inherently human to want to be significant in some capacity. But if the price requires sacrificing civility and honour, we've lost ourselves

The trouble with lusting after statusStatus is a constant in human life, although much of the time we don't think about it because it's everywhere and takes so many forms. It’s been said that “if it doesn’t happen on YouTube, it didn’t happen.” But are those messages helping or hindering? Are we unintentionally inviting individuals to seek their moments of fame…

Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?

Present your big ideas in a way that meets group needs and you might find that they’ll support your plans. Push too hard and they won’t even hear you

Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?It’s no secret that we all have different styles when it comes to communicating. Some people are articulate communicators and others aren’t. Some people get right to the point while others tell a story first. Mix communication styles and add emotion and it’s likely that important elements will be missed entirely. Take this example: Justin…

You are what you focus on

Sometimes the biggest upgrade needed to help you see what’s possible is to ruthlessly shift what you’re focusing on most

You are what you focus onWe had a fabulous dinner party last weekend where lively conversations and interesting perceptions were shared about relationships, friendships and new experiences. At the end of the wine, there was some agreement that the biggest obstacle facing most people who find themselves with a bit of bleak outlook is that they’re inviting in that perspective.…

Let 2018 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitude

Nothing good will come from whining and complaining. Put that mental energy into making the situation better

Let 2018 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitudeI have a Facebook friend who posted some insights into the challenging year she coped with in 2017. She talked about how much time had been wasted focusing on events that happened outside her physical control. At the end of a fairly long note, she concluded that being a person who refused to complain about…

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respect

Most conflicts would simply evaporate if everyone took the time to adhere to some simple and fundamental courtesies

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respectWhy are tenants and their allies already protesting landlords in Vancouver as 2018 dawns? They’re outraged that a landlord would have the audacity to apply for an eviction order to remove a tenant who hasn’t paid the rent. How inconsiderate of them. And a few of those landlords are trying to make repairs to their…

Not feeling the holiday magic?

There are no perfect holidays. Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

Not feeling the holiday magic?Not feeling it this season? Started getting stressed as soon as you saw the Christmas decorations go up the day after Halloween? I’m guessing that it’s not because you’re famous for being able to give the Grinch a run for his money. You can get by most of the time without people thinking your heart…

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joy

Christmas isn’t about gifts, a blanket of snow, a crackling fire and carols. It's about family, and creating warm memories

Taking the stress out of Christmas, preserving the joyIt was cold the other day – really cold. As I sat in a coffee shop with a cup of tea, preparing to answer a few emails during a break from Christmas shopping, I noticed four shivering teens – opting for fashion instead of warmth. They ordered hot chocolates, then headed to a far corner of…

Need help connecting with people? Here’s how

They have to feel they have your attention, and that requires you actually look at and listen to them

Need help connecting with people? Here’s howHow often have you uttered the phrase “How are you?” without even bothering to wait for the recipient of the question to respond? The receiver could say, “I just won the lottery!” or “Well, my wife left me, I lost my job, I’m getting evicted from my home and the dog died!” and it’s all…

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life

Strive to incorporate more of what you love into your life. Seek new paths. Stop making excuses and go for it!

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life“The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof,” says author Barbara Kingsolver. Have you ever stopped to wonder what you want…

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramatic

Sometimes we get stuck in our stories – our dramas – and our friends grow weary of how often we tell them

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramaticWhen we experience life, we talk about it. We share the stories that are amazing, funny and absurd. We talk about moments when we felt unfairly treated or when we obsessed over something quirky. It’s natural – this is how humans have learned to communicate, to share with others and tell the tale of who…