When strangers meet and civility reigns

Generosity of spirit and genuine kindness – it seems so simple but it also seems so essential to peace around the world

When strangers meet and civility reignsBarbara Bush once said, “Never lose sight of the fact that the most important yardstick of your success will be how you treat other people – your family, friends and coworkers, and even strangers you meet along the way.” I’d love to share a story about how this played out for my husband and I…

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and small

Make today the day you pause, make eye contact and explore how to ease conflict and build a more connected community

We’re in this together: how to solve problems big and smallThere will never be a shortage of situations that put people in conflict with one another. From our strong opinions about the environmental impact of pipelines to the economics that drive decision-making. From differences of opinion about in-laws (and outlaws) to parenting to crime prevention and everything in between. Who owns the problem and how…

7 habits of highly unsuccessful people

Advice on retaining your sanity in the face of a complete idiot

7 habits of highly unsuccessful peopleDo you: 1: Never miss an opportunity to educate those around you? Call attention to mistakes they have made and make sure everyone else knows about those mistakes?. Don't hesitate to point out when someone (a colleague, an employee, the clerk at the local hardware store, an airline pilot, the prime minister) is wrong and…

Focus on your goals to put them within reach

You get what you’re fixated on, so get rid of the negative thoughts and distractions and focus on what's important to you

Focus on your goals to put them within reachThe news is filled with folks complaining. From politics to economics and everything in between, people are focused on what we don’t have rather than what we do. It’s such a deeply-rooted problem that it makes me wonder if our focus is the primary culprit for all the unhappiness we perceive. When we imagine ourselves…

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fine

Burning desires are tense; detachment is relaxed and open. Get what you want by stressing less about outcomes

Relax, everything is going to turn out just fineSome of the biggest conflicts we face are about the frustration we feel when we don’t follow through and achieve what we’ve set our minds on. This causes us to become prickly in our relationships and take our irritation out on others. When I first started working in law enforcement, there were all kinds of…

Turning your sense of failure into success

Believing you can't do something won't get problems solved. Find a way if you truly want a happy life

Turning your sense of failure into success“I can’t manage everything by myself anymore, I’m completely stressed out! From being responsible for all the meal planning to childcare responsibilities to cleaning the house, there’s no romance, no time for friends, no time to read. Something has to give.” These were the first words spoken when I sat down with one of my…

Your body reflects your emotions, so loosen up

Here's how you can react physically to cope when the mental pressures of the world start to weigh on you

Your body reflects your emotions, so loosen upRobert, as a hyperactive child, was constantly told to stop fidgeting. When he felt the urge to fidget, he remembered his mother’s disapproval and clenched his fists and held his arms rigidly at his sides. He spent so much of his life clenching his fists and holding himself rigidly that he appeared stiff and lifeless.…

Let me up, I’ve had enough … of rampant rudeness

Beside being tired of people playing the race card and gender inequality protests, I’m sick of people taking sides in an argument where they lack the basic facts

Let me up, I’ve had enough … of rampant rudenessI’ve had it! It is not like me to rant and rave, but honestly, our ability to behave in civil ways is on the decline. It may even be so far down the priority list that it may never truly return. I’m sick of people taking sides in an argument when they lack the basic…

What do you love enough to change your life?

If we don’t know what we want for ourselves, then we’re doomed to live a life of someone else’s choosing

What do you love enough to change your life?My eyes have been glued to the television watching Canada’s Olympic hopefuls put their hearts, bodies and minds on the line as they chase a gold medal. Afterwards, when interviewed, these athletes articulate how long they’ve dreamed of this moment. They talk of the hard work and perseverance that have culminated in this day, this…

Intimacy requires constant nurturing

When conflicts create added pressure, focus on opportunities that promote a sense of belonging and a sense of significance within your relationship

Intimacy requires constant nurturingThe third instalment of the Fifty Shades of Grey movies was released in time for Valentine's Day. This has certainly been a catalyst for some pretty interesting conversations on respect, fidelity and experimentation. If your relationship is strong and boundaries are communicated well, experimentation can work. However, I tend to work with the fallout when…