On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better route

When things aren’t going quite according to plan, breathe. No one likes travel stress, but sometimes we create our own problems and cause unnecessary delay

On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better routeJust when did we all become so sensitive and overreactive to situations beyond our control? Recently, my husband and I travelled to San Diego for a surprise birthday and anniversary party. The weekend was a ton of fun as we connected with family we haven’t seen for a long time. However, the travel was filled…

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty payback

We’re often reluctant to establish a line when dealing with others because we don’t want to be seen as difficult. So instead we stew in our anger and resentment

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty paybackHave you ever lived near or worked with someone who seemed to have a problem respecting personal space? About 15 years ago, a neighbour decided he wanted to build a garage. There was a tree on his property line that he didn’t want to take down, so he figured he would just appropriate needed space…

When a loss shows how deeply you have loved

Dog lovers know having a pet brings many upsides. Science tells us dogs keep us active, de-stressed and loved. But inevitably there is also sadness and loss

When a loss shows how deeply you have lovedAs a dog lover, there’s no doubt in my mind that having a dog brings many upsides. How can I not live happily waking up to a smiley face and wagging tail? Or come home from a long trip to the crying excitement of a pup that likely thought he might never see me again.…

The power of collaboration to spark success

The mastermind concept is a simple yet wonderfully productive tool: spend time with the creative genius in your friend pool?

The power of collaboration to spark successOne of my best friends runs an annual mastermind retreat at her lake house in Nelson, B.C. Besides being a fabulous location to get away from the daily grind (water, sand and wine – what’s not to love?), it’s also a fantastic way to reinvest in our collective successes. As a solo-entrepreneur, I have no…

Navigating the big, bad world after graduation

Given the high degree of uncertainty about the next few years, here are a few tips to help you retain at least a semblance of sanity as you look to your future

Navigating the big, bad world after graduation“And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here,” author Neil Gaiman wrote. I’ve been enjoying all the pictures of grad celebrations popping up on social media lately. It’s graduation time – spirits are high and the winds of…

Divide and conquer: how to deal with harsh criticism

We have a tendency to fixate on the most devastating of critiques, rather than focusing on the ones that offer honest, objective and useful feedback

Divide and conquer: how to deal with harsh criticismIs it just me or do others find themselves overly fixating on criticism about your performance? I wasn't sure I had a thick enough skin after the first reviews came in when I began speaking professionally (and I was in law enforcement at the time). I prepared, practised delivery and made every effort to ensure…

The tiny facial cues that can tip you off

Picking up the early cues gives you more time to take action, change what you’re doing or prepare for what’s coming next

The tiny facial cues that can tip you offDuring the recent B.C. election, I had lots of questions about how to interpret non-verbal communication cues. Let’s focus on the micro cues on faces. Not the obvious raised eyebrows and downturned mouth expressions, but some of the not-so-obvious signals – like skin colour change. When someone is described as “hot around the collar,” they’re experiencing a…

Make a back flip over your fear

If fear is putting you in an inner conflict, try collaboration instead of fighting and imagine a more triumphant outcome

That which we resist persists – but you can change all that! A young gymnast has been working with me on elevating her performance. Despite being exceptionally talented and scoring well on the bars and mat, she recently developed a completely debilitating fear of the balance beam. When pressed about the problem, she described a fear of falling;…

How we deal with conflict is all a matter of perspective

When you change the context in which a behaviour occurs, the behaviour itself is transformed

How we deal with conflict is all a matter of perspectiveHow we deal with objections and problems is often just a matter of how we frame those problems. Our ability to quickly thin slice information can keep us alive by allowing our minds to make rapid assessments. But although this ability to spot patterns unconsciously has evolved as a valuable gift to communication, it has…