Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthy

Sure, conflict is uncomfortable. But if we’re not exposed to it occasionally, how will we ever get more comfortable being uncomfortable?

Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthySaskatchewan Premier Brad Wall recently announced he was retiring from politics. This news came as a crushing blow to my husband, although neither one of us has ever lived in that province. Why did he take the news so hard? In his opinion, Wall was the last political leader willing to stand up for national…

You choose whether to be happy or miserable

Imagining that someone else has all the luck and opportunity slowly eats away at our mental strength and resourcefulness

You choose whether to be happy or miserableMy daughter has a Facebook friend whose life seems perfect. She lives in a gorgeous house, has a really rewarding career, and she and her family go on all kinds of exciting adventures. No matter where they are or what activity they’re involved in, the whole family appears carefree and joyful! This friend is constantly…

Navigate change and treat it like an opportunity

If we don’t learn how to navigate change, we’re setting ourselves up for a lifetime of stress, anxiety, fear and doubt

Navigate change and treat it like an opportunityMy husband and I recently headed out on a camping trip with some of our new Rotary friends. The weather was hot, we were supporting a great charity and the river was perfect for floating along. I cherish such chances to do something a little different and just be in the moment. When a group…

Expectations shape life experience, so shape your expectations

It's amazing what people feel they can or should be able to control. Getting these assumptions wrong has major effects on our lives

Expectations shape life experience, so shape your expectationsWe can only be disappointed, shocked or delightedly surprised if we were expecting something else. When people disappoint themselves or are disappointed by others, we can ask: What exactly was the expectation? The answer tells us how the person feels their life ought to be or how they think things should go. My daughter is…

On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better route

When things aren’t going quite according to plan, breathe. No one likes travel stress, but sometimes we create our own problems and cause unnecessary delay

On the road to travel trauma? How to find a better routeJust when did we all become so sensitive and overreactive to situations beyond our control? Recently, my husband and I travelled to San Diego for a surprise birthday and anniversary party. The weekend was a ton of fun as we connected with family we haven’t seen for a long time. However, the travel was filled…

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty payback

We’re often reluctant to establish a line when dealing with others because we don’t want to be seen as difficult. So instead we stew in our anger and resentment

Managing boundaries without emotion or nasty paybackHave you ever lived near or worked with someone who seemed to have a problem respecting personal space? About 15 years ago, a neighbour decided he wanted to build a garage. There was a tree on his property line that he didn’t want to take down, so he figured he would just appropriate needed space…

When a loss shows how deeply you have loved

Dog lovers know having a pet brings many upsides. Science tells us dogs keep us active, de-stressed and loved. But inevitably there is also sadness and loss

When a loss shows how deeply you have lovedAs a dog lover, there’s no doubt in my mind that having a dog brings many upsides. How can I not live happily waking up to a smiley face and wagging tail? Or come home from a long trip to the crying excitement of a pup that likely thought he might never see me again.…

The power of collaboration to spark success

The mastermind concept is a simple yet wonderfully productive tool: spend time with the creative genius in your friend pool?

The power of collaboration to spark successOne of my best friends runs an annual mastermind retreat at her lake house in Nelson, B.C. Besides being a fabulous location to get away from the daily grind (water, sand and wine – what’s not to love?), it’s also a fantastic way to reinvest in our collective successes. As a solo-entrepreneur, I have no…

Navigating the big, bad world after graduation

Given the high degree of uncertainty about the next few years, here are a few tips to help you retain at least a semblance of sanity as you look to your future

Navigating the big, bad world after graduation“And now go, and make interesting mistakes, make amazing mistakes, make glorious and fantastic mistakes. Break rules. Leave the world more interesting for your being here,” author Neil Gaiman wrote. I’ve been enjoying all the pictures of grad celebrations popping up on social media lately. It’s graduation time – spirits are high and the winds of…

Divide and conquer: how to deal with harsh criticism

We have a tendency to fixate on the most devastating of critiques, rather than focusing on the ones that offer honest, objective and useful feedback

Divide and conquer: how to deal with harsh criticismIs it just me or do others find themselves overly fixating on criticism about your performance? I wasn't sure I had a thick enough skin after the first reviews came in when I began speaking professionally (and I was in law enforcement at the time). I prepared, practised delivery and made every effort to ensure…