Building resilience into your personality and your business

When we learn how to deal with the cycle of hope, despair and forgiveness, we're well on our way to success

Building resilience into your personality and your businessA wag once said that the only one who really likes change is a wet baby, yet we face continuous, dramatic and ever-accelerating change in both our personal lives and work lives. What we learned at our grandparents’ knees half a century ago doesn’t fit the 21st century world. When our grandchildren sit on our…

Life is like playing baseball

Each of us is a gift to the world and we need to work hard every day to develop these gifts

Life is like playing baseballFormer Toronto Blue Jays all-star Jesse Barfield recently tweeted, “The only person I want to be better than is the person I was yesterday.” There’s tremendous depth to this statement and it’s interesting that it came from someone who was arguably one of the best of all time to play his position. Barfield was the…

How the philosophy of personalism brings us together

Personalism embraces the goodness in every one of us. It encourages us to become our best selves, and it requires love and respect for everyone

How the philosophy of personalism brings us togetherIt’s fascinating how certain ideas can unite all people, yet we can be so unaware of their presence. According to the Stanford Encyclopedia of Philosophy, “Personalism posits ultimate reality and value in personhood – human as well as (at least for most personalists) divine. It emphasizes the significance, uniqueness and inviolability of the person, as…

Are you an argumentative communicator?

How to make your point without alienating, angering or humiliating your audience

Are you an argumentative communicator?It’s that time of year when a lot of us take holidays with family and friends. As much as we enjoy getting together, conversations can be a bit prickly and leave loved ones feeling less supported than we might want. So we need some strategies for reducing potential misunderstandings when confronted with the argumentative communicator.…

Embrace the moment, regardless of the circumstances

By living lives of integrity, by doing our best despite our imperfections, we find a way to move forward

Embrace the moment, regardless of the circumstancesWhen saying goodbye to people, I’ll often add: “And remember, no matter where you go, there you are.” While I’ve always been aware this phrase was giving people something significant to ponder, I didn’t know its history. It’s actually attributed to Confucius, the great Chinese philosopher. In 1994, Jon Kabat-Zinn expanded on this idea in…

Finding and maintaining motivation this summer

Good performances don't happen by accident – they're a result of positive and tactical thinking. So train your thoughts

Finding and maintaining motivation this summerIt’s officially summer! School is done. The kids are excited about sprinklers, beaches and long bike rides with friends. Your colleagues are booking time off and your work productivity might be suffering a bit. With the birds chirping and a lawn chair calling your name, it can be really challenging to muster up the motivation…

How to be your very best every day

Find your zone, connect to the world, tune into your purpose and then get specific

How to be your very best every dayI recently had the fabulous opportunity to chat with a group of executive administrative assistants on their final day of a national conference. They had spent a few days exploring what it takes to create positive energy for themselves and their organizations. When I met with them, they were elated, excited and maybe even a…

Sometimes we need to take people literally

It’s not a magic potion but setting positive goals and using visualization help – if you understand the root of the problem

Sometimes we need to take people literallyAt a recent dinner meeting, conversation surrounded weight loss and aging. One of the men said he wanted to lose weight. He admitted he didn’t feel very positive about it – he’d been sticking to a spartan diet for months, exercised regularly but just didn’t seem to be able to shift it. He was convinced…

Did you hear about … how damaging gossip can be

Like death and taxes, storytelling isn’t going to go away. But when we participate in gossip, our character and integrity are on the line

Did you hear about … how damaging gossip can be“You will never believe what I just heard about Jane. …” How does a phrase like this grab our attention and pull us in so quickly? Even if we think we’re above all that, it can be difficult to resist hearing a story likely to be a lot more interesting than what we’re doing at the…

Companions for life: trust and integrity

While the dishonest may appear content, we don’t see the inner turmoil they suffer from knowing that they’ve done wrong

Companions for life: trust and integrity“I trust people until they demonstrate that they can’t be trusted.” These were the words that Ed Peklo, the dean of students at the small American college I attended, spoke at our orientation nearly 40 years ago. Beginning my post-secondary career in this way established a positive tone. I didn’t have to prove that I…

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking about

Intuition is your unconscious self recognizing circumstances before your intellectual self does. You should be listening to its voice

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking aboutI spoke recently at a conference where a lot of pre-seminar chatter was about the need to trust one’s intuition, especially when it comes to safety. This is a great discussion point, but a lot of people simply don’t allow intuition a chance to alert them or they ignore the obvious signs when intuition is…

The pursuit of happiness: in each life, there should be meaning

The hardships and challenges we inevitably go through can be life’s greatest teachers

The pursuit of happiness: in each life, there should be meaningVisionary psychiatrist Viktor Frankl said, “There is nothing in the world … that would so effectively help one to survive even the worst conditions as the knowledge that there is meaning in one’s life.” Frankl came to this conclusion as he stared death in the face every day in Nazi concentration camps. Today, many of…

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothing

When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective. Events and circumstances start to feel all-consuming

The big payoff that comes from doing absolutely nothingAre we so afraid of spending time alone with our own thoughts that we find tasks to occupy every moment of our waking day? We must stop consuming our days in this unmitigated busyness. When we’re running from moment to moment, task to task, we lose perspective. Events and circumstances start to feel all-consuming. We…

Changing behaviour starts with a look in the mirror

Radical change, or change to appease someone else, rarely sticks

Changing behaviour starts with a look in the mirrorJerry started smoking when he was in Grade 5. Over the course of his life he has tried many times – once when his uncle died from lung cancer – to give it up. Then, one morning, at the age of 37, Jerry woke up feeling like an old man. He stubbed out his cigarette,…

How to avoid these five common body language mistakes

It's all about context: view them in clusters, evaluate them in relation to what is being said, assess them for consistency and filter them for cultural influences

How to avoid these five common body language mistakesHumans are genetically programmed to look for facial and behavioural cues and to quickly understand their meaning. We see someone gesture and automatically make a judgment about the intention of that gesture. And we've been doing this for a long time. As a species, we knew how to win friends and influence people – or…
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