How will you choose to reset after COVID-19?

We’re living in unprecedented times, and perhaps that's exactly what we needed to shift our priorities and our energies

How will you choose to reset after COVID-19?I’ve spent more time on social media in the past 10 days than in the past 10 years. I confess it has done very little for my enthusiasm, motivation or equilibrium. I feel the same way about televised news. Sure, there are the odd amusing posts that keep me chuckling. I especially liked the memes…

Showing gratitude leads to a healthier life

Grateful people sleep better, exercise more frequently, are happier and more altruistic

Showing gratitude leads to a healthier lifeShowing gratitude is good for us, and yet gratitude does not come naturally or easily to most of us. Our brains are “like Velcro for bad experiences, but Teflon for positive ones,” wrote neuropsychologist Rick Hanson and neurologist Richard Mendius. This tendency towards the negative makes it difficult for us to be grateful. Research has…

You choose whether to be happy or miserable

Imagining that someone else has all the luck and opportunity slowly eats away at our mental strength and resourcefulness

You choose whether to be happy or miserableMy daughter has a Facebook friend whose life seems perfect. She lives in a gorgeous house, has a really rewarding career, and she and her family go on all kinds of exciting adventures. No matter where they are or what activity they’re involved in, the whole family appears carefree and joyful! This friend is constantly…

How to keep it together when everything is falling apart

In the face of the coronavirus, keep perspective. Focus on what matters and what you can control. Strive for a sense of well-being. And stay busy

How to keep it together when everything is falling apartI remember writing about personal and leadership resilience during the financial crisis. I guess the good news is, until now, we haven’t had an event so universally significant and impactful to test us. But here we are again. Unlike the financial crisis, where it was (just) about money, this time it will be – at…

Is happiness the point of human life?

Rather than asking if you are a happy, ask whether you are good

Is happiness the point of human life?It was 2,400 years ago that Aristotle identified happiness as the goal all people seek – the end of all “why” questions. But is happiness really the point of human life? I ask this question because when we look at history (or even the news today), it is apparent that there are a lot of…

What I learned from a journey of over 11 million steps

Walking has helped me become more fit, productive and happy, and I’ve met some great people along the way

What I learned from a journey of over 11 million stepsFor a dedicated athlete, or even an active 20-something, taking a minimum of 10,000 steps a day for more than two and a half years might seem like a a walk in the park. For someone like me, three decades older, with ancient injuries and a lot more wear and tear on the body, walking…

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?

Remember, confidence is a process not a product. Allow the journey to begin

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?What can you control in your life? Your health? What others think of you? How happy your lover is? The weather? Your finances? Your future? Your appearance? Your mood? Other people's moods? Can you control these things completely, or just influence them to some extent? If you’re at all like me, the words, “You can…

Continuous improvement key factor to achieving business success

Every day in every way, continuous improvements can have significant impacts that will make us better people and better organizations

Continuous improvement key factor to achieving business successWhen I was a child, Mother (who either believed she was on the cutting edge of learning and psychology or just hoped we would grow up quickly) made my brothers and I repeat daily the phrase: “Every day in every way, I will get better and better and better.” Because we were often in trouble…

When we understand ourselves, great things are possible

Sometimes technology allows us deal with our challenges and sometimes we need to ask for help from our neighbour

When we understand ourselves, great things are possibleI often tell my students that there are more ways to be smart than how we’ve traditionally measured intelligence in the classroom. If you’re good at reading, writing and mathematics, you generally have little difficulty effectively navigating our education system. The problem is that many of us struggle in these areas. But that doesn’t mean…

How to move on from hurt feelings and bad situations

You have every right to choose a new path, but make sure you're not overreacting based on your own insecurity or a misinterpretation of the situation

How to move on from hurt feelings and bad situationsThere are infinite ways our feelings get hurt – and a few clear ways to deal with such circumstances. Perhaps someone expressed a thought unkindly. You found yourself reacting to a perceived slight. Maybe you spent a good deal of time working on a project only to have your name missed when the recognition was…

Stop blaming others for your unhappiness

It's time to stop nurturing helplessness in our society and start encouraging respect, collaboration and personal accountability

Stop blaming others for your unhappinessYou can hardly watch the news without seeing some report of radical, violent behaviour. Protests and uprisings are surging, fuelled by anger, ignorance, resentment and clashes of emotional need. How did we get here? Researchers say we are wired to thrive in small villages of about 150 people. The Hutterites know this and still practise…

Finding that inner harmony that leads to a full life

Congruence, a deep honesty about who you are, is immensely attractive, draws people to you and reinforces your goals and ideals

Finding that inner harmony that leads to a full lifeBeing successful has a great deal to do with having your ducks in a row – or being congruent. At a meeting recently, one of the organizers explained how networking helped him go from redundancy to a lucrative business that he loved in less than two years. I could see why: there was something about him that…

Keith Richards was wrong – the message does matter

There are many great teachers who instruct us on how to achieve true happiness and success. You're just not likely to find them in popular culture

Keith Richards was wrong – the message does matterI often reflect on where my beliefs come from. I can see they’ve changed significantly over time. As I’ve altered who I listen to, my thoughts and beliefs have changed, and I’ve changed for the better. In my teen years I was strongly influenced by popular culture. I loved the Who, the Rolling Stones, the…

Adults can behave worse than babies

A plane is no easy place to calm a crying child. Have compassion. Yelling won’t improve things. But there are ways to change the environment

Adults can behave worse than babiesMy husband spotted the situation first. Right next to him on the plane was the most adorable infant, possibly seven months old. “Oh no,” he mumbled. I smiled. He has headphones and we have grandchildren. Perhaps she would sleep the whole way. Not this time. She started fussing even before the wheels left the ground.…

Learning how to be a good friend

Human relationships are complex. But there are some simple principles you can follow to build solid friendships

Learning how to be a good friendEverybody wants to have friends. Growing up, I often heard, “If you want to have friends, you have to be a friend.” To me, that statement always left more questions than answers. I was recently reading The 7 Habits of Highly Effective Teens by Sean Covey with my students and I came upon the best…
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