Caregivers mustn’t be afraid to ask for help

While care for those we love creates meaningful experiences, it can also lead to exhaustion, isolation and burnout. We need to welcome help

Caregivers mustn’t be afraid to ask for helpCanada’s 8.1 million natural caregivers frequently hear their friends, family, neighbours and co-workers say, “Don’t hesitate to let me know if there is anything I can do to help.” The automatic verbal response from the caregiver if often a grateful, “Sure, will do.” But that rarely happens. Instead there’s hesitance, reluctance or even a refusal…

A few tips to help you relieve your stress

There are many simple things you can do to ward off stress for any given situation

A few tips to help you relieve your stressThe next time you are stuck in traffic, fretting and fuming as the vehicles inch along, or you are standing in an incredibly long lineup at the bank listening to parents attempt to placate their whining child, whom they lovingly call 'incorrigible' and the rest of the people in the bank would term 'monstrous', take…

Are you suffering career burnout?

Dealing with burnout isn't easy but awareness is a good first step because you understand that, while you're unhappy, you aren't trapped

Are you suffering career burnout?Two decades ago, burnout was career-builders' enemy. Today, it is a nightmare with potentially devastating repercussions. It is exemplified by around the clock portable connectivity tools which make working long hours seductive, easy and effortless. Before you know what's happening, you've turned into a drone and working is no longer fun. Merriam-Webster's Collegiate Dictionary describes…

The very real dangers of overwork

It's only a matter of time before your entire system breaks down

The very real dangers of overworkConventional wisdom says that hard work yields it's own just rewards.  It's hard to argue with success, fame, fortune. The big successes of the world aren't clock watchers.  They've turned their back on the conventional 9 to 5 mentality, and work 12- to 14-hour days and put in Saturdays – even Sundays – when they…

The hard knocks of opportunity

If we invested in every opportunity that was presented to us, chances are we would be broke

The hard knocks of opportunityYou’ve probably never heard of Ron Wayne, but had he not sold his 10 per cent share in Apple Computer shortly after it launched, ultimately for US$2,300, he might now be as famous as partners Steve Jobs and Steve Wozniak. He could now be worth $40 billion. But he isn’t. Joe Green was Mark Zuckerberg’s…

How to handle job-interview stress

It is unrealistic to hope the interview will run smoothly. Expect some stress, and find ways to deal with it

How to handle job-interview stressWhether during good or bad economies, interview stress is a given in the job-hunting process. Job candidates experience stress prior to the interview and during the interview. During both occasions, the stress can be equally intense. Don't be passive and hope the interview will run smoothly. That's being unrealistic. The worst thing you can do is…

Healthy body, healthy mind: a double payoff for exercise

The mental health benefits of exercise are well documented, and even moderate sadness and feelings of anxiety can be improved

Healthy body, healthy mind: a double payoff for exerciseNot only is exercise good for our bodies, it’s also good for our minds. Most people with a regular exercise routine will tell you that it makes you feel good physically and is a helpful way of reducing stress, improving confidence and self-esteem, and increasing energy. It adds to a general sense of well-being. Although most fitness…

Can you work less and earn more?

Thinking differently, delegating more, and strategically planning are key to earning more and worrying less

Can you work less and earn more?“You just learned in a year what most MBA students never learn in a lifetime,” I told a client this week. He had just responded to my question: “What did you learn in the past year?” “I learned that I can earn more by working less!” he answered. Not only had my client doubled his…

How to shake off your Christmas stress

People who have a calm perspective make better decisions than those who are stressed. And stress behaviour is self-perpetuating

How to shake off your Christmas stressIt’s almost that time of year again – the shops are filling up, along with the roads, and people’s stress levels are increasing. Christmas is a time of tradition. Some people have huge family gatherings with relatives from all over the place, others prefer a quiet evening – fireplace, wine, blanket and time off work.…

Are you one plum pudding away from a Christmas meltdown?

The pre-Christmas preparation can turn the jolliest of elves into Scrooges

Are you one plum pudding away from a Christmas meltdown?I have a holiday cocktail napkin that reminds me to keep a sense of humour during the busy weeks leading up to Christmas Day. The napkin depicts a spotless 1950’s kitchen where a mother and daughter are preparing to take Christmas dinner out of the oven. The little girl looks excited about the feast ahead,…

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflict

If we want to move past unrealized expectations in our lives, we have to forget the old script and craft a new one

How to let go of disappointment and avoid conflictThe conflicts that rear up in our lives most often stem from unrealized expectations. Each of us has a script we follow, an expectation of how things are supposed to go. When our expectations aren’t met, we can be delighted by the change, significantly disappointed or even angered. When we head to a nice restaurant,…

4 tips to getting happy in troubled economic times

Canadian researcher Gillian Mandich offers tips on how to achieve a flow of happiness in your life

4 tips to getting happy in troubled economic timesThe economy is struggling, small business owners are stressed and many people are either unemployed or underemployed. What can you do to find that sliver of happiness in trouble economic times? Canadian researcher Gillian Mandich's has some tips on how to achieve a flow of happiness in your life. Among them: “Implement little rituals: Whether…

Awareness fatigue weighing us all down, particularly millennials

They are the gatekeepers of so much change necessary to forge new norms of behaviour and social standards

Awareness fatigue weighing us all down, particularly millennialsI had a discussion with a bright young millennial in my family network last week and predictably learned something new. “I think I have awareness fatigue,” he said. “What?” I inquired. “Awareness fatigue, Mike. Too much knowledge of too much stuff that collectively is emotionally hard to carry.” Arguably, the syndrome currently includes: the whole…

Moving from pandemonium to peace in uncertain times

Our stressful, crazy world can lead to insomnia and worse. But there are ways to cope

Moving from pandemonium to peace in uncertain timesInsomnia could be called the 21st century disease. Falling asleep, staying asleep and getting enough sleep is ever more difficult, especially as one gets older – and everyone is getting older. Couple this with the increasing number of studies that show that lack of sufficient sleep is a major contributor to ill health. Now we…

Turn the heat down on your summer holiday stress

Summer-related events can increase our blood pressure rather than lower it. We have such high expectations. Take a breath!

Turn the heat down on your summer holiday stressThe summer heat is on! It may have taken some time to arrive (especially for those in the western provinces), but those warm temperatures are here. And with them, the frantic scramble to get on the road and enjoy a little down time with the family. We work so hard year-round to reach this moment.…