Need help connecting with people? Here’s how

They have to feel they have your attention, and that requires you actually look at and listen to them

Need help connecting with people? Here’s howHow often have you uttered the phrase “How are you?” without even bothering to wait for the recipient of the question to respond? The receiver could say, “I just won the lottery!” or “Well, my wife left me, I lost my job, I’m getting evicted from my home and the dog died!” and it’s all…

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life

Strive to incorporate more of what you love into your life. Seek new paths. Stop making excuses and go for it!

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life“The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof,” says author Barbara Kingsolver. Have you ever stopped to wonder what you want…

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramatic

Sometimes we get stuck in our stories – our dramas – and our friends grow weary of how often we tell them

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramaticWhen we experience life, we talk about it. We share the stories that are amazing, funny and absurd. We talk about moments when we felt unfairly treated or when we obsessed over something quirky. It’s natural – this is how humans have learned to communicate, to share with others and tell the tale of who…

How to engage in difficult conversations

Job-related or personal, we all face these situations. But you can be prepared by practising, being direct, learning to frame the issue and staying calm

How to engage in difficult conversationsHow would you handle yourself in front of the media if you were accused of sexual harassment or impropriety from several decades ago? This is the circumstance faced by actor Kevin Spacey this week – and many other Hollywood and political personalities over the past several weeks and months. Is it beneficial to simply apologize…

Adapting to the new normal of constant change

Give yourself permission to freak out on your own time and then find ways to move forward

Adapting to the new normal of constant changeHumans are creatures of habit. We like the same seat at the dinner table or the same seat in a classroom. North Americans tend to prefer their salad first but Parisians tend to prefer it last. The status quo provides comfort and familiarity. Is it any wonder that so many of us are struggling with…

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?

Remember, confidence is a process not a product. Allow the journey to begin

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?What can you control in your life? Your health? What others think of you? How happy your lover is? The weather? Your finances? Your future? Your appearance? Your mood? Other people's moods? Can you control these things completely, or just influence them to some extent? If you’re at all like me, the words, “You can…

How to cope with calamity and crisis

Rehearsing a state of relaxation through these simple daily exercises can help you face up to the inevitable tension in your life

How to cope with calamity and crisisThe Las Vegas mass shooting has caused most of us to pause. Bad stuff can happen to good people. We wonder what we would do if we found ourselves caught up in such violence. Sometimes just hearing about such tragedies can lead us to feel tense and uncertain. And that can cause us to become…

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorce

Confidence, direction, соurаgе and reassurance аrе constant companions in your efforts tо mаkе a successful rесоvеrу from divоrсе

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorceDivorce is nothing like it appears on TV or on the Internet. The grieving ebbs and flows as your life changes significantly. Divоrсе rесоvеrу gives rise tо thoughtѕ like, “I nеvеr thought I'd hаvе tо dо this. I'vе never bееn in this predicament bеfоrе. Evеrуthing iѕ nеw and threatening. I feel lоѕt and afraid thingѕ…

Taming the irrational beast called anger

When strong negative emotions kidnap the thinking brain, we become scarcely more coherent than a wild animal

Taming the irrational beast called angerYou may have seen a video recently of a man punching a fellow pedestrian who he felt took his photo without authorization. Once the video was released, the man came forward and apologized for what he called his uncharacteristic behaviour. Whether it’s a result of stress, the state of the economy or a variety of…

How to deal with unreasonable people, and win

It's difficult to deal with idiots but once you recognize the types, you can build strategies to minimize their impact on your life

How to deal with unreasonable people, and winLife is a learning process: what works and what doesn’t; how to behave in public, with family and in the workplace; and especially what sort of people we want to be around and who we’d rather see sent to Mars. Even if it hurts to admit, we’re all guilty of behaving like idiots at times…

Starting the new school year off right

The best way to help your child is by connecting with their teachers and treating them with respect

Starting the new school year off rightNow that school is back in and life is settling into its normal fall routine, it may be a good idea to think about the essential relationship you and your child have with those people responsible for your child’s education: teachers. As a parent, you want nothing but the best for your child. When it…

The trouble with money

We crave, mythologize, demonize and fight wars over money. Why can’t we just treat it with respect and maintain harmony in the home?

The trouble with moneyMy husband and I recently got into a mild argument over finances. It started with calculating costs for a trip east with friends to see a football game. It ended with a tally of summer bills and how on earth they would ever get paid. This happens in countless households. Money – or lack of…

Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthy

Sure, conflict is uncomfortable. But if we’re not exposed to it occasionally, how will we ever get more comfortable being uncomfortable?

Politics is filled with conflicting opinions, and that’s healthySaskatchewan Premier Brad Wall recently announced he was retiring from politics. This news came as a crushing blow to my husband, although neither one of us has ever lived in that province. Why did he take the news so hard? In his opinion, Wall was the last political leader willing to stand up for national…

You choose whether to be happy or miserable

Imagining that someone else has all the luck and opportunity slowly eats away at our mental strength and resourcefulness

You choose whether to be happy or miserableMy daughter has a Facebook friend whose life seems perfect. She lives in a gorgeous house, has a really rewarding career, and she and her family go on all kinds of exciting adventures. No matter where they are or what activity they’re involved in, the whole family appears carefree and joyful! This friend is constantly…

Navigate change and treat it like an opportunity

If we don’t learn how to navigate change, we’re setting ourselves up for a lifetime of stress, anxiety, fear and doubt

Navigate change and treat it like an opportunityMy husband and I recently headed out on a camping trip with some of our new Rotary friends. The weather was hot, we were supporting a great charity and the river was perfect for floating along. I cherish such chances to do something a little different and just be in the moment. When a group…