Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?

Present your big ideas in a way that meets group needs and you might find that they’ll support your plans. Push too hard and they won’t even hear you

Is your enthusiasm undermining your message?It’s no secret that we all have different styles when it comes to communicating. Some people are articulate communicators and others aren’t. Some people get right to the point while others tell a story first. Mix communication styles and add emotion and it’s likely that important elements will be missed entirely. Take this example: Justin…

You are what you focus on

Sometimes the biggest upgrade needed to help you see what’s possible is to ruthlessly shift what you’re focusing on most

You are what you focus onWe had a fabulous dinner party last weekend where lively conversations and interesting perceptions were shared about relationships, friendships and new experiences. At the end of the wine, there was some agreement that the biggest obstacle facing most people who find themselves with a bit of bleak outlook is that they’re inviting in that perspective.…

Let 2018 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitude

Nothing good will come from whining and complaining. Put that mental energy into making the situation better

Let 2018 be the year you show a new attitude of gratitudeI have a Facebook friend who posted some insights into the challenging year she coped with in 2017. She talked about how much time had been wasted focusing on events that happened outside her physical control. At the end of a fairly long note, she concluded that being a person who refused to complain about…

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respect

Most conflicts would simply evaporate if everyone took the time to adhere to some simple and fundamental courtesies

Landlord-tenant conflicts often come down to respectWhy are tenants and their allies already protesting landlords in Vancouver as 2018 dawns? They’re outraged that a landlord would have the audacity to apply for an eviction order to remove a tenant who hasn’t paid the rent. How inconsiderate of them. And a few of those landlords are trying to make repairs to their…

Not feeling the holiday magic?

There are no perfect holidays. Accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

Not feeling the holiday magic?Not feeling it this season? Started getting stressed as soon as you saw the Christmas decorations go up the day after Halloween? I’m guessing that it’s not because you’re famous for being able to give the Grinch a run for his money. You can get by most of the time without people thinking your heart…

Need help connecting with people? Here’s how

They have to feel they have your attention, and that requires you actually look at and listen to them

Need help connecting with people? Here’s howHow often have you uttered the phrase “How are you?” without even bothering to wait for the recipient of the question to respond? The receiver could say, “I just won the lottery!” or “Well, my wife left me, I lost my job, I’m getting evicted from my home and the dog died!” and it’s all…

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life

Strive to incorporate more of what you love into your life. Seek new paths. Stop making excuses and go for it!

Passion is at the heart of an energetic, fulfilled life“The very least you can do in your life is to figure out what you hope for. And the most you can do is live inside that hope. Not admire it from a distance but live right in it, under its roof,” says author Barbara Kingsolver. Have you ever stopped to wonder what you want…

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramatic

Sometimes we get stuck in our stories – our dramas – and our friends grow weary of how often we tell them

On the sunny side of life: how to stop being so dramaticWhen we experience life, we talk about it. We share the stories that are amazing, funny and absurd. We talk about moments when we felt unfairly treated or when we obsessed over something quirky. It’s natural – this is how humans have learned to communicate, to share with others and tell the tale of who…

How to engage in difficult conversations

Job-related or personal, we all face these situations. But you can be prepared by practising, being direct, learning to frame the issue and staying calm

How to engage in difficult conversationsHow would you handle yourself in front of the media if you were accused of sexual harassment or impropriety from several decades ago? This is the circumstance faced by actor Kevin Spacey this week – and many other Hollywood and political personalities over the past several weeks and months. Is it beneficial to simply apologize…

Adapting to the new normal of constant change

Give yourself permission to freak out on your own time and then find ways to move forward

Adapting to the new normal of constant changeHumans are creatures of habit. We like the same seat at the dinner table or the same seat in a classroom. North Americans tend to prefer their salad first but Parisians tend to prefer it last. The status quo provides comfort and familiarity. Is it any wonder that so many of us are struggling with…

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?

Remember, confidence is a process not a product. Allow the journey to begin

Do you suffer from a false sense of no confidence?What can you control in your life? Your health? What others think of you? How happy your lover is? The weather? Your finances? Your future? Your appearance? Your mood? Other people's moods? Can you control these things completely, or just influence them to some extent? If you’re at all like me, the words, “You can…

How to cope with calamity and crisis

Rehearsing a state of relaxation through these simple daily exercises can help you face up to the inevitable tension in your life

How to cope with calamity and crisisThe Las Vegas mass shooting has caused most of us to pause. Bad stuff can happen to good people. We wonder what we would do if we found ourselves caught up in such violence. Sometimes just hearing about such tragedies can lead us to feel tense and uncertain. And that can cause us to become…

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorce

Confidence, direction, соurаgе and reassurance аrе constant companions in your efforts tо mаkе a successful rесоvеrу from divоrсе

Finding the inner strength to get through a divorceDivorce is nothing like it appears on TV or on the Internet. The grieving ebbs and flows as your life changes significantly. Divоrсе rесоvеrу gives rise tо thoughtѕ like, “I nеvеr thought I'd hаvе tо dо this. I'vе never bееn in this predicament bеfоrе. Evеrуthing iѕ nеw and threatening. I feel lоѕt and afraid thingѕ…

Taming the irrational beast called anger

When strong negative emotions kidnap the thinking brain, we become scarcely more coherent than a wild animal

Taming the irrational beast called angerYou may have seen a video recently of a man punching a fellow pedestrian who he felt took his photo without authorization. Once the video was released, the man came forward and apologized for what he called his uncharacteristic behaviour. Whether it’s a result of stress, the state of the economy or a variety of…

How to deal with unreasonable people, and win

It's difficult to deal with idiots but once you recognize the types, you can build strategies to minimize their impact on your life

How to deal with unreasonable people, and winLife is a learning process: what works and what doesn’t; how to behave in public, with family and in the workplace; and especially what sort of people we want to be around and who we’d rather see sent to Mars. Even if it hurts to admit, we’re all guilty of behaving like idiots at times…