Not all habits are bad

In the world of sports for example, becoming successful is contingent on positive habits

Not all habits are badWhen we talk about habits, most of us immediately reflect on those we wish to break or remove. Habits like smoking, overeating, alcohol consumption, gambling and chewing ones nails, etc. seem an easy pattern to fall into, but stopping them somehow seems so much harder. We start out with such great intentions towards daily exercise…

Five little tips for surviving the Christmas holidays

The greatest gift you can give yourself is to accept your limitations and honour those activities that make you feel good when you do them

Canadians are expected to spend significantly less this Christmas season – or so the story goes – but that doesn't mean the holiday stress will melt away. The other night, my husband and I headed to the local mall to see what we could check off our Santa list. In spite of the mall being nearly…

How to communicate when the heat is on

Getting your message across effectively can be difficult while giving a presentation, or during a job interview or when dealing with an upset person

How to communicate when the heat is onCommunication can be a real challenge. When you're feeling pushed, it's that much harder. Whether you’re giving a presentation, attending a job interview, dealing with an upset person, or simply conversing at work or in your personal life, ensuring you get your message across – and, equally important, hearing what the other person is saying…

The payoff from Empty Nest syndrome is huge

One of the real pluses of being an Empty Nester is that you are no longer on view as a role model 24/7

The payoff from Empty Nest syndrome is hugeFree at last, free at last! The children have grown up and moved away, your house is your own to do with what you will and your schedule is now open to anything you wish to pursue. So why are you so divided in your feelings? Empty Nest syndrome hits when your daughter or son…

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking about

Intuition is your unconscious self recognizing circumstances before your intellectual self does. You should be listening to its voice

Trust your intuition, it knows what it’s talking aboutI once spoke at a conference where a lot of pre-seminar chatter was about the need to trust one’s intuition, especially when it comes to safety. This is a great discussion point, but a lot of people simply don’t allow intuition a chance to alert them or they ignore the obvious signs when intuition is…

Six steps for navigating conflict effectively

Creative solutions to complex and challenging problems come from a willingness to constructively navigate civilized disagreements

Six steps for navigating conflict effectivelyConflict is natural and often unavoidable. But when emotion takes centre stage, it can lead to hostility. We've all encountered unproductive, frustrating or infuriating situations. We know how they make us feel. What's often less obvious is the degree to which nonverbal nuances contributed to the problem. Take the way our facial micro gestures (specifically around…

There is nothing scarier than our own imagination

Take your mind off automatic pilot and get it to work for you rather than against you

There is nothing scarier than our own imaginationWhen left to our own devices, we humans have the capacity to create 'worst case scenarios' that play around in our heads unchecked and often without boundaries. When this happens, it paralyzes us and prevents us from speaking up when someone hurts our feelings, springing into action on an exciting opportunity or doing what needs…

Strategies for coping with the devastating loss of a friend

When someone dies, the loss is often more widespread than we recognize, and the tragedy and permanence of death shocks and scares us

Strategies for coping with the devastating loss of a friendI once found out (on Facebook of all places) that a dear friend had passed away suddenly. I was in shock. Had it been April Fool’s Day, I might have believed it was someone’s inappropriate joke. But it wasn’t. I didn’t know what to say or what to feel. I was numb. One of my…

How to portray confidence in an interview

Focus on your characteristics and skills, allowing other people to determine for themselves which skills are useful for the job and which aren’t

How to portray confidence in an interviewWe detect the confidence of others automatically, whether we think we’re perceptive or not. Confidence is conveyed in words, posture, voice tone and gestures. Whenever we communicate with others, our minds are watching for mismatches – alerting us to a person's lack of sincerity. This can spell disaster when we're interviewing for a new job or…

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriage

Resentment over wrongs, disagreements over the kids and financial worries can be breeding grounds for some of the worst adult behaviour

Talk is not cheap, but it can save your marriageThey loved each other so much. Everyone thought they were a perfect couple. Of all the couples in their circle, they definitely had the advantage, communicating so well with each other. That’s what we all thought – until they got divorced! When that perfect couple is at an impasse, why start fighting like children? Communication…

You don’t have to like someone to be polite

Don't waste your energy on something that is not worth wasting your energy on

You don’t have to like someone to be politeYou don’t have to love them, but life is so much easier when you are polite to people, regardless of how they behave toward you. Have you ever had to deal with offensive customers, or colleagues? It can be a real challenge to keep your cool when your inner voice is screaming, “You’re a jerk!…

Your guide to motivating the unmotivated

If you want to motivate people, setting a good example is a good place to start

Your guide to motivating the unmotivatedMotivating yourself can be difficult at times, but motivating other people offers a different kind of challenge. Short of standing behind them with a pitchfork and an evil grin, or offering them a gazillion dollars, what can you do to get the best from others, be they employees or colleagues or even family (although that’s…

Promises, promises on the road to Parliament

Body language cues are most accurate when a speaker is initially put on the spot. So ask candidates hard questions and watch closely

Promises, promises on the road to ParliamentWhat makes interpreting the sincerity of all those election promises so darn challenging? All the prep time a candidate has gets in the way. Interpreting the nuances of non-verbal communication requires us to detect fleeting cues and they’re more accurate when an individual hasn’t had the luxury of polishing up their rebuttal. Body language cues…

Are the PM’s apologies just an election ploy?

A body language expert looks at Trudeau's latest apologies and analyzes their sincerity

Are the PM’s apologies just an election ploy?Prime Minister Justin Trudeau seems to be paying attention to experts when they share what it takes to offer a sincere apology. I suppose he ought to – after all, he spent a term being that kind of leader: one who leans on apology to help boost his public image. I’m not saying this is…

Learn to take life’s ups and downs in stride

Focus on these three Cs — calm, collected and confident

Learn to take life’s ups and downs in strideToo often, we’re exposed to the energy-sucking power of worry. What a waste. But you can do something about it. When I was a young mom, I worried about making mistakes raising my children. I was so concerned about scarring them for life. It seemed that every article I read eluded to poor parenting as…
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